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Have a Blessing Way

Have a Blessing Way
A Blessing Way is a wonderful alternative to the traditional ‘baby shower’ that is held for a woman approaching birth. The Blessing Way ritual (also a fun day out with the girls) literally blesses the way for the mother to be ready for childbirth. As a community, you welcome the baby that is coming soon and confirm the support that you are willing to receive from your community of friends and family.

Traditionally, a woman invites those people closest to her, in whose friendship and wisdom she trusts. You can invite friends to bring a plate of food and/or a gift if you like, but a special ceremony as part of your day is the central feature of a Blessing Way.

When we first wrote this article back in 2001, it was the only article on the entire internet that we could find. Being from Byron Bay, a Blessing Way was normal. Once again, Byron Bay is a place of initiative around intuitive birthing rituals. These days, lots of websites have written about a blessing way. Articles such as this one from BELLY BELLY are informative.History of Blessing Ways

Blessing Ways are traditional to North American Indians according to Mystic Mama. The Indigenous people of the America’s are said to have celebrated and honoured the transition a woman makes when she moves from maiden to mother. This rite of passage is the second ‘blood rite’ for a woman, the first being her first menstruation. It is a time of receiving for the mother to be, a time where she is nurtured and honoured by her community of women.The Blessing Way Ceremony acknowledges the commitment and energy involved in being a mother and gives her a time where all the energy is available for her to receive. This ceremony can be given to a woman each time she has a child, as with each child comes a new level of commitment and surrender.

The key is for the ‘mother to be’ to allow herself to receive and ‘fill her cup’ as deeply as possible. The Blessing Way is also a powerful way to assist in the mother’s preparation for birth. It gives other mothers present in the circle the opportunity to share experiences. Often it is a time when the ‘mother to be’ can express any fears or worries in a safe and sacred setting and receive the support she needs. Here are some ideas that you can include in your special day as you create your own personal memory.

When the birthing woman goes into labour, all women in her Blessing Way circle are contacted through the phone tree and each woman breaks the thread and sends a blessing for an easy birth. This circle of women can then be contacted once the baby is born and be invited to support the mother in practical ways that allow a new mother to relax and bond with her baby, which is her priority right now.

We suggest you choose only one or two of the following rituals that best suit your community of friends. A Blessing Way Ritual is always best remembered when it is the right length of time, and needs to consider that the women in the Blessing Way circle may have young children of their own at home being minded.

Blessing Way Bead Ceremony – Each woman is asked to bring a bead for a blessing necklace. At some time during the ceremony a bowl is handed around the circle and each woman gives her bead and a blessing for mother and baby. At the end of the ceremony one of the women threads the beads together and gives the necklace to the mother to have with her during the birth. This gives the mother-to-be a connection to all her women friends when she is birthing.

Binding of the wrists – The woman running the ritual brings a reel of wool or fine thread. The colour is usually red to represent blood. This is bound around each woman’s left wrist by the woman who sits to the left of her. As each woman binds the thread on the other woman’s wrist she says ‘ from women we were born into this circle, from women we were born unto this earth’. This ritual is symbolic of the thread that connects us all as women. It also keeps each woman tuned into the birthing mother as she leads up to her time and reminds them to send her positive, loving energy as they all see their red string every morning until the baby is born. Once each guest has delivered her helpful post-natal task for the birthing mother, the red string can be removed.

Massaging the Mother – Take along some lush, pregnancy friendly, massage oils and be sure to give her the full treatment with as many women as possible joining in. Brush her hair, give her a facial, whatever indulgence she wants.

Flowers – Flowers are symbolic of nature’s abundance and beauty, just as a woman is when she is in her full pregnant bloom. Be sure to ask all women to bring flowers and create a beautiful alter with them. A flower crown is a beautiful thing to have for the mother-to-be.

Singing – The singing of songs to celebrate woman, pregnancy and birth is a beautiful way to honour and share at a Blessing Way. Each woman may bring a song or poem or instrument to play, or you may have a talented friend who can lead the group in song.

Belly Casting – A kit is usually the easiest way to ensure success with a belly casting. I suggest you do your cast in private and then have it at the Blessing Way circle as a group activity to decorate. Alternatively, you can create the Belly Cast as part of your Blessing Way Ceremony (kits are available from in our pregnancy section).

Prayer Flags – Flags are a beautiful way to create a lasting memory of a Blessing Way ritual. Each guest is given a piece of fabric of equal size to decorate. You will need fabric pens, sewing materials, fabric scraps etc so your guests can create a unique prayer flag specifically for you and your baby (kits are available from in our pregnancy section).

Post Birth Support

On the day of the Blessing Way Ceremony have a close friend take the names and contact details of each woman present to be put on a ‘support roster’ for bringing meals after the birth. Each woman brings one meal (ensuring the ingredients are breastfeeding friendly) to the new mother and helps out in any way she can when she drops it off – e.g. dishwashing, clothes washing etc. This support is invaluable for the new mum at a big transition time in her life.

Add your own ideas inspired by this list to create a day that suits your own personality and celebrates your unique wisdom and experience!

This Article was first written in 2003 and edited with new links in 2016

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Naturopath, Reine Du Bois, has had a long term association with Nature’s Child as our in-house naturopath and has her own centre THE HEALTH LODGE in Byron Bay. Her online naturopathic service is highly recommended by all of us here at Nature’s Child.

Reine has answered some common questions for us that new mothers may have. Is your question here?


Naturopathy is based on the principle that the natural laws of life apply inside the body as well as outside. It uses a range of natural approaches including diet and herbs and encourages exposure to sun and fresh air to maximise the body’s natural responses. This system of healing aims to provide holistic or whole body healthcare by drawing on treatment methods from several traditional systems of medicine.

Frequently Asked Pregnancy Questions:

Q. What oil is safe to use for perineum massage?

A. A simple organic almond or avocado oil. Try to avoid essential oils as they can sometimes be too stimulating.

Q. What natural remedies are safe to use during labour?

A. Sipping Raspberry leaf tea with a little ginger helps the uterus to make the most of each contraction; Arnica 30c helps to keep you focussed and calm; Rescue Remedy assists if you start to doubt your body’s ability to complete the journey and it keeps you grounded.

Q . What can I do to relieve heartburn?

A. It is very common to experience heartburn during the second part of pregnancy. It may not necessarily get worse but could continue for the next three months. Here are some suggestions that can help:

  • Don’t drink with your meals (30 minutes before and after is fine)
  • Don’t eat too late at night, try and have your last meal around 6-7 pm
  • CHEW your food really well – put knife and folk down between mouthfuls
  • Eat small meals frequently
  • Keep a bag of almonds with you for in-between meals and chew well (they decrease the acidity of the stomach)
  • Avoid greasy take-away and hot spicy foods

Q. How can I help the symptoms of colic?

A. Drink organic chamomile and fennel tea 15 minutes before feeding. The baby can also be given tiny amounts via a dropper before feeds. Mum should also look after her diet as certain foods can create extra wind for newborn babies.

Want to know more about Naturopathy?

The first step is to educate yourself. See your local library or subscribe to some of the wonderful magazines and websites that have a family focus on natural healing to help grow and expand your awareness.

My Personal Recommendation by Jannine Barron

I have personally used the services of Reine Du Bois for many years for my whole family so she comes highly recommended by me. Reine practises online as a virtual naturopath. View her website at In my own personal experience of treating my childrens’ illnesses and imbalances with homeopathics, herbs and healing arts such as craniosacral, kinesiology and more, I feel I have developed a profound and natural understanding of myfamily’s bodies and how we can operate at optimum health. Naturopathy is our first port of call with any illness and I encourage all families wanting to live a natural lifestyle to take this journey.

If you are interested in working with both doctors and naturopaths as I am, I encourage you to explore Reine’s work on Integrative Health. View this link at her website:

I am proud and honoured to sit on the board of THE HEALTH LODGE and look forward to a new era in health for all of us where Wholistic Medical Care is the norm.


Homœopathy is a system of medicine that is as equally interesting and challenging. It views every sick person as having a unique set of traits and life circumstances that will effect healing. It also acknowledges the body’s (or nature’s) ability to self-heal. The homoeopathic remedies work by stimulating the body to self-heal i.e. they work together with the body and not against it. Homœopathy can be of use in issues that arise pre and post birth; morning sickness; delays in milk coming through; difficulty feeding; mastitis; and post-natal depression, to name a few. We highly recommend The Ankhara Rose Therapeutics Birth and Beyond Homœopathic kit which contains 10 of the most commonly used remedies in pregnancy, birth and lactation. It also provides an easy to use booklet designed to help any pregnant woman, doula, midwife or mother confidently prescribe her own remedy. Please contact